Children And Divorce

How Divorce Affects Children

Divorce Affects Children in many ways.

Divorce affects children in many different ways depending on their age and mental capacity to understand anything other than their world is falling apart as they know it. Divorce affects children between the ages of 2 through early adulthood and could lead to long lasting anger and behavioral issues well into adulthood. Younger children who are not fully able to understand what divorce actually is seem to be affected the most. Tweens or children under 17 can also be affected greatly even though they are old enough to understand what is happening with their family. Divorce affects children sometimes by giving them a false sense that the reason their parents are divorcing may somehow be their fault. Children may start to act out at school and be disrespectful at home. Keep in mind that they are just children and their actions are simply a way for them to show power in a situation where they currently feel powerless. Children whose family is going through the process of divorce tend to act out at school, at home and or with friends. If you experience your child having difficulties at school such as getting in fights, being called to the office for disciplinary problems such as refusing to do class work or things of that nature, you may want to have your child speak to a counselor. Most, if not all public and private school systems have information and resources designed to help you with your child(ren). Don't be ashamed or afraid to speak with the school counselor. They are there to help you. Under no circumstances should the parents going through divorce downplay each other or talk bad about each other to the children or around the children despite what they may feel about each other personally. This could harm the children and make them feel like they have to choose a parent or a “team” to play on if you will. In their minds everyone used to be on the same team and now the child is being told he or she has to pick a team to play on. It is best for children in divorce cases when the parents have a working relationship for the children's sake. They should also allow and be allowed to be a part of the children's lives. Each parent should live up to their obligations they set forth for themselves when they agreed upon the terms and conditions of the children in their child custody agreement. This is under the assumption that the parents have agreed to have an uncontested divorce. In contested divorces, where the court determines the parents or guardians obligations and responsibilities the same general rules as outlined above should apply as well. If you feel that you or your children need to speak to a counselor you may want to contact organizations in your area that may be able to assist you.